Itchy Bitchy End of Summer


Once I turned forty, I knew things would change.

That is when the clock spins, the body freaks out and things begin to creak, strain and all around break down.

For me it seems it is also when my body would finally decide it had spent enough time fighting poison ivy and wanted to let me experience the itchy hell that it is.

I’ve walked through patches of it, hiked over it and all around been exposed to poison ivy more times than I can count throughout my life and yet besides a few random spots over the years, I’ve never gotten it.

That changed recently and I’ve been pink spotted and itchy for what seems like forever now. Thankfully it is starting to clear up and this morning I could finally shave since the spots on my face had cleared up.

Not the way I wanted to end summer and who knew that getting it between your fingers would make typing nearly impossible.

On the flipside, it isn’t so bad since no naked photos of myself have been stolen and posted this week.

It also isn’t that bad because I’m not dealing with horrible weather, terrorists, Ebola or any of the other horrible things happening in the world right now.

You also won’t see me getting up on my social soap box platform of choice and sharing my thoughts about any of these topics. You know why? Because I don’t need to add my voice to the cavalcadeΒ of bitching, moaning and pontificating that is already happening out there.

These past few weeks have certainly showed me how much some people love to talk in the hopes of being heard.

None of usΒ need to give our two cents about everything, but an awful lot of you continue to do so.

Do I have thoughts on everything going on in the world right now? Of course I do.

Do I share them publicly? No, because there is no need to.

Think before you hit that post button. So many of you look like fools and over zealous maniacs complaining about everything from buckets of water to what color suit someone wears.

As Kid President says, “If you can’t think of anything nice to say, you’re not thinking hard enough.”

It may have been an itchy bitchy end of summer, but I’m looking for a cool and create autumn. (Without any pumpkin spice anything for me please!)

  • Cindy

    Sorry for your poison ivy.. I’ve never had it (knock on wood!!) but heard it’s quite miserable! But I must admit, now I feel bad that I just posted on Facebook that my neighbor’s dogs are driving me insane with their barking.. πŸ™
    Have a great day!

    • *laugh* We all do it from time to time.

      I see that as a bit different than the constant need to critique the greater world around us that I’m seeing many friends and strangers doing lately.

      Hope the dogs stop doing whatever they are doing.

  • Jonathan Hutchinson

    Well said!

  • I wholeheartedly agree! It’s not that I don’t care, just that I don’t care to share! (Feel better!!)

  • Sorry to hear about the poison ivy outbreak — never fun!

    Lately, when someone tries forcing a political conversation or anything like that, I say, “I really haven’t looked into that enough to have a deep discussion about it.” It shocks people because so many people seem to think they must be able to talk about everything. (That, and most people like that seem to only want to argue; they already have their moves planned, like a loud and clumsy game of chess.) Of course, some will begin talking anyway, and I end up excusing myself. It’s not that I’m a Pollyanna, but I’ve found the loudest people are usually not the most informed people. I gain so much more by talking with people who are excited about things and sharing that excitement than someone just spewing bile.

    I’m glad the things you talk about are things that make you happy or even make the world a better place. Thanks for that!

    • You are very welcome. Life is too short to put lots of energy into anything that doesn’t help myself or the world around me.

      I like your approach.

  • Ilina

    I think it all depends on how you share. I do share commentary on political and social goings on, but it serves as a platform for me to drive people to action. This is what has fueled events like Moral Mondays in North Carolina. Bitching for bitching’s sake is not fruitful. But standing up for a cause and driving people to action is a good thing. As always, tone, message, and voice are everything.

    • You know I agree with you on that. I’m an advocate for anything close to my heart.

      I see that as VERY different than simply commenting, bitching and taking a public stand on every single news story that happens.

      Sadly, I’m already seeing a bunch of this today with the horrible news of another journalist being killed.

  • Meg Tripp

    I got a bit soapboxy today about people sharing images of violence, and then about how so many messages get lost because people might have a useful view, but they’re just spewing their thoughts at strangers… so maybe I was that person? πŸ™‚ It’s hard to say. But I’m usually just posting pictures of food and ranting about my abject fear of humidity and live tweeting sports and awards shows… so I’m already what most people fear on social networks. πŸ˜‰

    • πŸ™‚

      At the end of the day it is for each person to decide what is “right” for them. It is why many times I just remind myself “To Each Their Own” and move on.

      Take this post for example. I’ve been wanting to write it for weeks since this has been bugging me, but I couldn’t figure out a way to do it in a fun, but useful manner until this morning when it hit me.

      SO little is black and white in today’s world. Hell, ever in the world.
      And keep posting all those photos of food because I love seeing them. Even though you ARE a tease for only sharing the photos and not the recipes!

    • foodphilosophy

      I am also sometimes this person! More foods than awards, but definitely humidity and violent images soapboxness. πŸ™‚

  • foodphilosophy

    I’ve actually been commenting on things lately when I normally do not, as I think I’ve hit my breaking point with the other side, such as remaining silent while people assault my eyes with pictures of decapitated children in the name of…something. Or some people’s approach (read: subtle bullying) with regard to ice buckets.

    Normally when I do speak out, it’s to prompt people to check their premises, check in with themselves (as I have to do with myself, and often!), so that we aren’t blindly going through the day without questioning things.
    And I get everything you’re saying, CC. I don’t like to contribute to the noise, but I’m also not ok letting the noise go unaddressed when there’s something I think it’s important to address. I’d say it’s pursuit of balance, but I don’t do balance well. πŸ˜‰

    • Not you? πŸ™‚

      It comes down to priorities I guess. Every one of us have different ones for sure.

      • foodphilosophy

        Evil, good men, silence, etc. πŸ™‚

        And I’m sorry you’re itchy! I didn’t realize one could become allergic later in life — I will be very sure to stear clear of any and all woods. Yikes.

  • I agree with you about the commenting on everything. But ultimately isn’t that what social media is all about? Good content is hard to produce and a lot of people aren’t in the content business – or so they believe – so they opt for just “content” in the hopes that they stay relevant and get seen. I’ll admit that I love healthy discussion, and I’m always flattered when someone takes the time to comment on something I have written, regardless of the platform. I especially like it when they don’t hold the same opinion as me and take the time to state their case in a rational way. I think sometimes, if the author is willing, these posts on everything, are an opportunity to change people’s minds about things. But then again sometimes people just want to rant and aren’t listening. Like the ad says “Humans…” – one minute we can be landing on the moon, the next we are creating meme’s – go figure.

    • Well said my friend. WELL said.

      I’m all for healthy discussions and I love how you’ll take a torch into a dark cave just to see what you find. I spend lots of time reading the discussions your thoughts create some times.

      Helpful and healthy discussions are a beautiful thing, but SO few of those happen in the public streams these days.

      I have no problem with people having an opinion and sharing it. It just feels like too many people have gone over the edge and feel compelled that they MUST comment and share their thoughts on every little thing.

      My priorities are different than most is what I’m realizing πŸ™‚

      • πŸ™‚ I love that analogy! Taking a torch into a dark cave to see what I find. You are right healthy discussions are few and far between. I’m fortunate in that the people in my network who choose to comment do so in a respectful way, even when they disagree with me or each other. Are we becoming fearful that if we don’t exist online, we don’t exist?

      • Sadly it appears that is exactly where many are going with their self worth.

  • gachap

    Good thoughts.
    Just commenting on your first three lines, wait until you double that 40!

  • greeblehaus

    Right after I turned 40, I got a life-threatening ear infection that nearly killed me for 9 months. I still feel the effects of it, far and wide – plus just the pains of getting older. But I swear, every morning when I would lay there – I kept thinking. I have a house. I have a great family. I have enough money to make it through this. I have people who are helping me. It could be so much worse. Perspective is so important. (Although, I tell you what. If I had poison ivy for weeks, you would have heard me complaining, LOL).

    • YUCK!!!

      My dad always told us kids that no matter how bad things were, there was always someone having a worse day. SO TRUE!