YOU Choose Your Path

My Own Path

Why is everyone scared of being themselves? What fills people with the feeling that they need to be just like everyone else?

I tell crowds of people all the time that “normal is boring” and I mean it. Being vanilla and conforming to how you think you should be acting is no way to live your life.

Last weekend in a room full of media, one writer mentioned how they wish they could write a post a certain way but that “their audience wouldn’t react well to it.”

Why have we allowed the Internet to dictate what we create?

Can you imagine Hemingway, Adams or Prince creating their art based on what they thought the audience wanted rather than what they felt in their hearts?

You do not have to chase the same things that all the other bloggers do. You are your own person and you should never forget that. No matter what the art is you are creating, please create it because you get satisfaction out of it first.

I know that my blog and my career would be more successful if I wrote for the masses. Every day I see a friend speaking at a conference that I’d love to speak at and I know that on top of them being a great speaker that a lot of it has to do with them writing for the masses. There is nothing wrong with that and those people will always do well.

The path I’ve chosen is a different one. It sure isn’t the easiest one as I’m finding out this week. Yet, I’m traveling it because it is the one that in my heart and soul I know I belong on.

People give me strange looks and ask me how I’m going to make a living doing it.

The honest truth is that I don’t know yet. I’m scared. Deep-seated fright at this moment of the months and years ahead.

Again, this is who I am. You need to be who you are.

The path choice is up to you.

  • William Murray

    Do I have a comment? No. Am I thanking you for posting this and supporting all of us on our own journey? HELL YES.

  • I agree with @d433d4e32618ac3a53b34b89fbb0144a:disqus thank you a lot for helping many of us understand that we are not alone.

    I get those looks all the time. The other day I turned down the opportunity to work with an organization that goes against my belief system. Hell yes I need the cash but I would be in a very uncomfortable place by working with them just focused on income.

    Thanks again!

  • We have to look in the mirror every day. Choosing the lonely path means not always having a sympathetic audience. That’s what courage is for.

  • You must be living in my mind and heart today. I like the road less travelled, but it can be lonely sometimes. But then again, that lonely road – the high road – is always the right one for me. Thanks for this, especially today. Cheers! Kaarina

    • You are welcome and while it can be lonely there are always others out there. The trick is to find and connect with those people. They’ll help in the darker times.

      • Oh, they do:) It’s important to have those safe havens and safe harbours where we can get the listening ear, shoulder to lean on, empathy and…a kick in the butt:)

  • rondavis

    Its a courageous and one of the most important decisions to be thyself in everything. I am very happy to see such a creative article here. Its very helpful..!
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  • “An artist’s first responsibility is to himself.” – Miles Davis

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  • Exactly, dude. I’ve been doing some work that brings me to sites that have large followings – much much bigger than my own – sites that have content meant to draw the largest number of people in – and I wonder. Could I take the easy route?
    Answer: If I wanted the easy route, I wouldn’t be the chaos muppet that I am. I wouldn’t be me. My route may be harder – followers and likes may not explode so easily – but I LOVE IT.